At this point the situation of the complaint needs to be put to rest and we need to continue with the topic that this blog was created for.

I would like to thank my readers for their comments and support. I recieved a few e-mails and a postin on this topic.

I will be allowing the postings reguarding the complaint to remain on the board as a note for other bloggers.

A lesson I hope we all learned from the overall situation is that as bloggers we allow ourselves to have a certin level of comfort with those who we interact with. Yet we never trully know them or their situation. Minor things can easily get taken out of content and cause situations that could easily have been avoided. For this reason I am just as guilty as anyone else in this situation, reason being I allowed a comfort level that I should not have allowed.

We should (and I am including myself) all use some caution and restrictions when dealing with people over the internet. But when an issue does arise, it is also inportant that we stand up for ourselves. Cause just as I stired up support on my end within hours of the situation starting, others can just as easily stir up support against us in other situations.

So in closing, use some caution and when needed protet your name, reputation and your blog.

As a note. Posting of comments will remain available to readers and responces will only be made via. public posting, PM will only be accepted or sent form/to those that I know. All other PM's will be deleted.

Thank you all,
A.Wallace

Reguarding the complaint mentioned in the last post.

I just recieved an e-mail from the husband containing 1 word "Resolved". I assume that this means that he feels the situation is resolved.

I also recieved a reply from a staff member at BlogStream requesting that I forward the complaint to him. The responce time from BlogStream was in my eyes fast. I would like to acknowledge them for not letting this matter lay to rest. It shows that they are concerned as to what takes place through their blog service.

In responce to BlogStream, I notified them that I would take precautions to prevent being in a situation like this again.

As a result of timely responces and quick soultion to the situation, I will reopen all blogs to comments. Comments as well as responces at this point will remain as public only. There will be no acepting or sending of any comments through privet message.

Final note, the situation and precautions taken on my part are in no way a reflection on BlogStream. I still find their service the best for bloggers and highly recomend them to anyone who would like to create a blog.

Thank you,
A. Wallace

IMPORTANT Please Read Infull

A reader of my blog (What to do in New York) made a post to which I responded both through the blog comments area and privet message.

The readers husband assumed that there was more behind the reply then there infact was and filed a complaint against me with BlogStream.com

I understand the need to be alert for any/all contact via the internet, but this was a regular reader, as well as someone that posted many times. Comments reguarding my blog have been exchanged between with this reader both privetly and through public posting on a few ocassions.

However, as a result of the complaint I have decided to remove any ablity to post comments to this blog as well as my other blogs untill this matter is resolved.

I am not in the habit of defending innocent actions and should I feel this issue is not resolved 100% with acknowledgment of so in writing. Readers will no longer be able to post comments here after.

Should you disagree with my choice in dealing with this matter, please send your comments about the complaint to cs1@blogstream.com where the complaint was reported. Hopefully they will contact me requesting that I allow comments once again.

I will be posting information reguarding this situation as it becomes available.

Note that the choice was made by me once I became aware of the complaint. This is not a result of BlogStream.com, They more then likely have not had time to respond to the complaint as of yet.

I am posting a copy of the complaint and my responce below as well as a copy of an e-mail I sent to Abuse at BlogStream. Please read this posting in full and send any comments reguarding it to the proper person. That is the only way I may consider allowing posting of comments again at a later date.

I am sorry for any inconvienance this may cause readers and hope this matter will be resolved quickly so that I can allow comments again in the near future.

I will be continuing to update the blog weekly as normal, so please stop in and read each week.

Note: Names and contact information is being removed from the comment as well as the reply. This is information that I think should remain privet.
__________________________

Complaint;

>From: "Blogstream.com"
>To: "Artie Wallace" (address removed)
>Subject: Private Message Received!
>Date: Sat, 01 Apr 2006 02:58:20 -0500
>
> Hi Artie,
>
>You have received a Private Message!
>
>
> From: (name removed). (Reply)
> Message: Hey Artie,
>What the fuck are you talking to my wife about that you are thanking
>her for her concern.
>
>Send me an e-mail. My address is (address Removed)
>
>CH
>
>If you need, you can login at:
>
>http://www.blogstream.com/acct/login.mod
>
>
>If you do not wish to receive comment updates via email, you can turn
>them off in the Settings page for your blog available through "My
>Account".
>
>----------------------------------------------------------------------
>
>You have received this message as a registered member of Blogstream.com.
> If you have received this message in error, please contact us at
>abuse1@blogstream.com.

___________________________

Reply (which was also sent to abuse at blogstream

CH,

I am sorry if you took something the wrong way.

Your wife has been following a blog that I write. She posted a comment reguarding a post on "Mc Sorley's Ale House". I reply to everyone that post a comment on my blog. Her comment was of how she got thrown out of the place. She also posted a second comment on why she got thrown out.

The full blog posting can be viewed at http://newyorkthisweek.blogstream.com/
All public comments can be posted at http://newyorkthisweek.blogstream.com/v1/pid/65757.html?CP=&HP=1#TC

Her comment about being thrown out read "They are old school there and YEARS ago when I went they still only had just a men's room. You can must order 2-3 beers at once. Loved that rule!

So, I was sitting at the bar and I sneezed with beer in my mouth. And it went all over the unlucky bartender. He was pissed and said OUT !!! GET OUT !!!!"

My public responce read as follows:
"I have heard of many resaons for getting thrown out of a bar.
But you just hit me with a new one that made top of the list.

Better luck next time. "

I also sent a privet responce stating to the affect of (she should have a copy with excat wording):
"I had a ruff few days and your posting put a smile on my face. The timing could not have been better. Thanks."

I recieved a responce to this responce stating "What's goin on ? I thought something was up......"

I took the comment about thinking something was up as concern being that I have not been keeping my blog in the recently updated listings this week. I do have readers that do e-mail me if they do not notice the blog not updated on time and they ask if everything is OK.

Judging by your responce, I assume the reply was not one of concern. That could have been a misunderstanding on my part. But given the information above, you can see how I could have taken it that way.

I replied to her comment that "everything was of, I just had a ruff few days." and how we all get them, and I thanked her for what I thought was a word of concern.

I can understand your concern, not knowing the full meaning behind the message. I hope this has cleared it up. Your wife is one of many readers that follow my blog and one of many that post comments (or e-mail me) to my blog. Depending on the post/comment I respond by public posting or privet message (as in this case).

For the record, your wife and I never had any contact nor do either of us desire to have any contact other then through the blog and with direct rellation to the blog and/or comments on said blog.

I do not know if my thinking her post was one of concern (as I have recieved from other readers at times) or if I took it the wrong way. What I do know is that if you review the blog, it's postings and comments, you will see that there was nothing other then total innocents on both ends.

Please speak to your wife about this and work with her to clear this matter up.

My blog is an extendtion of my weekly news site. Your wife is a part of the mailing list for the news site. Untill I recieve an e-mail from you and/or your wife stating that this matter is resolved, I will remove her from the mailing list.

If the comment by her was one of concern, then it would be the right thing for me to thank her for her concern. That is having proper manners and keeping good public relations. If her comment was not one of concern, then I am sorry that I misunderstood. This matter is not anything that should be an issue between your wife, you or myself as far as I am concerned. You would have to make that choice for yourself.

Due to this matter being taken out of content (be it on my end or yours). I will be removing the option for people to post comments from all three of my blogs, untill such time that I feel that this matter is resolved and all involved are at ease with the fact that no harm was intended in any way.

Please e-mail me and let me know if this matter is resolved. That way I can decide if I will make a choice if I will allow people to post their comments once again.

If you would like to know a little more about my blogs so that you can rest asure that this is not an issue for concern, please review my blog's and sites at the links below.

Blogs;
What to do in New York http://newyorkthisweek.blogstream.com/
Weekly Public Safety Tips http://publicsafetytips.blogstream.com/
Articles http://articles.blogstream.com/
My Profile on http://www.blogstream.com/profile.mod?PRID=5801

My sites:
The weekly News http://LocalNews.YourDesign2.com
Cool Collectables http://Collectables.YourDesign2.com
YourDesign2.com http://YourDesign2.com

NOTE:
As a direct ruslt of this situation. Even should this matter be resolved and readers be allowed to post comments to my blogs again. There will never be a privet message sent in a reply to comments here after. Also once this e-mail is sent I will be making a post to all blogs noting that comments will no longer be permitted until further notice. The post will be available for you to view on any/all blogs (blog address listed above). The post will be available on all blogs within the next 1/2 hour along with with abliity to post comments being removed at same time.

I hope this has cleared things up and sorry for any misunderstanding that may have came about.

Thank you,
A. Wallace

________________________________

E-mail sent to Blogstream in reguards to this complaint.

I recieved a complaint form someone about a privet message I sent from my blog. Please read the reply I sent as part of you reviewing the situation.

Should you have any questions for me at any point, please e-mail me or call me at (cell) (phone number removed). I trust you will evaluate this situation in a fair manner and approve of my dealing with the situation.

Thank you,
Artie Wallace
(blog: This Week in New York)

Slain preacher's wife apologizes
Congregation holds first Sunday services since shooting

Sunday, March 26, 2006; Posted: 5:32 p.m. EST (22:32 GMT)
From CNN.com

SELMER, Tennessee (AP) -- The preacher's wife charged with murder in the death of her husband wanted his congregation to know "she was sorry for everything she has done," said a friend who visited her in jail Sunday.

Church member Pam Killingsworth visited Mary Winkler after Sunday services and said the preacher's wife gave no indication why her husband of 10 years was shot.

"She just said she was sorry and for me to write a note to the church saying that she was sorry for everything she had done," said Killingsworth as she walked away from the jail in tears.

Winkler, 32, has been charged with first-degree murder in the death of her husband, Matthew Winkler, the preacher at the Fourth Street Church of Christ in this small town 80 miles east of Memphis.

Her initial court appearance is scheduled for Monday.

The congregation held its first Sunday services since the shooting death and was warned by elder Robert Shackelford not to speculate about why the popular, young minister was killed.

Friends have described the Winklers as a happy couple with no outward signs of discord, and authorities have refused to talk about a motive for the murder.

"Perhaps over time we will better understand why this has happened," Shackelford said at an adult Sunday school class. "Be very cautious about what you say or even what you think."

Mary Winkler was locked up at the McNairy County jail after being returned Saturday from the coast of Alabama, where she and her three young daughters were found by police following a multistate search.

Church members found 31-year-old Matthew Winkler dead in a bedroom of the couple's parsonage Wednesday night after his family missed a church service. Mary Winkler and the children were nowhere to be found.

The Tennessee Bureau of Investigation has refused to discuss a motive, but said investigators did not believe it was because of infidelity. The agency refused comment on whether Winkler had been accused of domestic abuse. Court papers offered no hint on a motive.

After Mary Winkler's arrest, a judge released her children -- Breanna, 1; Mary Alice, 6; and Patricia, 8 -- to the custody of their paternal grandparents in Henderson.

Neither the grandparents nor the Winkler children attended the church services Sunday. No relatives of Mary Winkler attended either.

Shackelford urged the congregation to pray for the children, their grandparents and Mary Winkler. "Mary is a member of this church family," he said, adding that forgiveness is a cornerstone of their faith.

"If we don't have forgiveness, then we don't have anything," Shackelford said.

Church elder Wilburn Ashe reminded members that only a few facts about the killing were known for sure -- Matthew Winkler is dead, his wife is in jail, and their children are without their parents.

"Those children have got a good home that they're in, but it's not mama and daddy," Ashe said.

The church must hold together, he said, and not be torn by speculation and loose talk about the slaying.

"We've got to do two things," Ashe said. "We've got to remain close to God and we've got to remain close to one another."

Members put up a large bulletin board in a church hallway covered with snapshots of the Winkler family.

Photos showed the older Winkler children playing basketball, posing with kittens and rolling in the snow with their father. Matthew Winkler flashed a big smile in one photo taken at a church social while balancing plates of food in each hand.

Other snapshots showed Mary Winkler laughing and holding her youngest daughter up for the camera.

Mary and Matthew Winkler were married in 1996. They met at Freed-Hardeman University, a Church of Christ-affiliated school in Henderson where Matthew's father was an adjunct professor.

Matthew Winkler's funeral is scheduled for Tuesday in Selmer.

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Who Determines Your True Worth?

Some say your JOB because they pay you a salary or hourly wage and offer (or do not offer) benefits, perks, etc.

Some say the vehicle you drive, the house you live in, the neighborhood you live, your friends, your clothes, where you hang out, and on and on.

You have natural talents or skills, those that seem to be inherent within you. Getting along with people easily, being able to logically figure things out, ability to focus and stay focused, being organized, making things happen, etc. And then you have your learned (acquired) talents or skills from attending College, reading and listening to tapes, attending seminars, On the Job Training (OJT), being tutored by someone, etc.

But these talents or skills do not determine your True Worth.

The truth of the matter – it is you who determines your True Worth. You determine what you are truly worth. It is by your action or inaction, by not making a decision which is within itself a decision. Following through on your dreams and desires or not. It is all up to you.

You can read all the books, listen to all the tapes, attend all the seminars or listen to all the tele-conferences but without a plan, without action (I know this from personal experience) you are determining your worth by your inaction.

You need to dream again – remember those dreams you had as a kid? Dream again and bring the adult dreams out. Then you need to visualize the dreams by giving them a present tense as if you are living them today. Use the visualization to create your goals in all areas of your life, not just possessions. Your goal setting should include at least the six major areas of life that you need to take action on. An action plan is necessary to put in motion the activities that will allow you to achieve your goals.

Keeping track of what activities you are working on requires a daily planner and a journal to record your every day feelings and ideas. The daily planner allows you to see your plan in action but the journal gives you a record of how you start out and how you grow and become what your vision says you are.

Even when using the tools mentioned is there anything else that could hold you back from achieving your true worth? What is you inner talk like? What are you saying that could be holding your back? Changing your inner talk requires some assistance, that is where affirmations come into play. Reading your affirmation every day help to change your inner talk and thought patterns.

If there is unforgiveness, anger, resentment or bitterness against anyone or a situation – it could be creating an artery clog to your future and your true worth. Make a list of anyone you feel you need to forgive, you don’t need to face them in person to forgive them, just make the list and burn it, shred it, or throw it away and move on.

Achieving your true worth is an awesome journey, for you will see yourself move from where you are to where your vision takes you. Is it a one day or week or month journey, it is different for everyone, but it takes time and commitment to start and continue on this adventure. You will find that as you realize you are worth more than you imagined your goals, vision and affirmations will change. The great part is that with your journal you will have a record of this journey to encourage you as you see the results both small and large in your beliefs.

To Achieve Your True Worth, you need a plan (a system) that will assist you in starting, planning and organizing and keeping track of your new adventure. Once started it just takes focus, desire and action on your part to start moving forward. Hesitation or indecision will leave you where you are, but action will assist you in moving forward with your life. So take action today and enjoy your future.
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